I just got off the phone with my co-worker (we both work from home) and we were discussing what it is like to make new friends at the ages we are. ( we both just relocated to sunny and warm southern California. Her a year or so ago and me just a shy 4 months ago.) I was telling her about my dilemma that a girl I met through mutual friends stopped returning my phone calls. Now my co-worker seems to think that something could be up with the girl or she is out of town, etc. etc.
I am starting to think that making friends is a lot like dating.....I have in my head the author of the book "he's just not that into you" in my mind. But seriously...you and new friend A get together on occasion and depending on how great the time is or the types of conversations you have determines whether or not you are going to consider that person your friend or not. And when they start to not return your phone calls, especially after TWO invites out...I think this means, she is not that in to me...as a friend. Oh well.
Or either I getting karma payback from a guy who wanted to "be just friends with me" but continued to stalk me. I told him that I had enough friends and when I needed one more, I would give him a call. OUCH!
Anyway...I am moving forward and reaching out to other potentials who could possibly be my friend. I have joined a women's moutain biking group (well, I am still waiting for my membership to be approved) and I have developed a myspace page to see if there are fun people around this area. Though the myspace page has proven to be quite scary as oddly enough I am attracting sex kittens who want to be my friend. Not so much!
Thank goodness I am heading to Chicago next weekend to be with all my warm, caring, friends for life friends! :)
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Making friends at this age is tough and moving around doesn't help, trust me I know. Maybe a support group will help. I do find making friends is a lot like dating and even worse when you are in a couple. I cannot tell you how many people I would like to be friends with but their SO is a doofus! Makes me wonder, who is the doofus in my marriage - I fear it is me!
Thank you so much for the welcome! I know exactly what you mean - it's so much easier to make friends as kids when you're all in school! I experienced the same problems, never knowing if they're "really" you friend. Luckily, I made some awesome friends at work - the job sucked, but I got some friends out of it!
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